These Bad Habits Might Be Ruining Your Sexual Compatibility

Sexual Compatibility

If your sex life has been lacking lately and you aren’t quite sure why, it could be that you or your partner have picked up a couple of bad habits along the way. Relationships are tough, full stop. No couple ever makes it through life without ever going through a bumpy patch or the occasional dry spell. However, in order to maintain a happy and healthy sexual relationship, an element of self-awareness is involved. Both of you must make a conscious effort to avoid picking up bad habits and being conscious of how your behaviour affects one another.

In this article, we’re going to look at some bad habits that might be ruining your sexual compatibility. 

1. Snuggling your devices in bed

When you get into bed with your partner, ideally you should leave the devices out of the bedroom. Not only can sitting up on your phone or tablet make it harder for you to settle down and fall asleep, but it can also be sapping your time, desire, and emotional energy. 

Many people will claim that there is no time for sex, while similarly sitting up on their phone checking social media for another hour. In essence, their emotional attention is focused elsewhere, rather than on their partner. 

Why don’t you try having a detox from devices in the bedroom and see what happens? 

2. Having that one extra drink 

While it’s certainly nice to unwind and enjoy some alcohol now and again – particularly after a stressful day at work – there is such a thing as having too much. Yes, a few glasses of wine can turn you on and get you in the mood. However, as alcohol is a depressant, if you drink too much it can kill your libido entirely. 

3. Eating too late in the evening 

If you have a busy schedule and you are under a lot of pressure at work, eating late is often unavoidable. However, you should try and make an effort to ensure that you eat as early as possible and you don’t over indulge. 

If you eat too late (or too much) in the evening, there’s a good chance that you will feel overly full and thus not particularly sexy. If you eat lighter and earlier on the other hand, when it comes to getting into bed you may have more desire to enjoy some sex for dessert in the evening. 

4. Falling into the same old routine 

You should try and mix things up in the bedroom as often as possible. The problem that many couple’s face when they have been in a relationship for a long time is that they fall into the same old routine and turn into ‘one-trick pony’s. Certainly, it’s lovely when you find a rhythm or routine that makes you both feel good, but over time it will begin to stagnate and you will become bored. 

There are many things you can do to spice things up in the bedroom and shake up the old routine. For example: head online and see if there are any sexual toys for sale that catch your eye; buy a book on Kama Sutra and try some different sexual positions; and spend more time on foreplay and focus on kissing and caressing one another. 

5. Criticising your appearance 

We all suffer with self-esteem issues now and again but if you are constantly criticising your own appearance it can destroy your libido. Not only that, but it can affect your partner as well. 

First, you must be accepting of the things that you cannot change about yourself and learn to love your flaws. Secondly, you must try and do something about the things that you can change. For example: if you have lost touch lately and you are unhappy with your weight, then perhaps try and get some more daily exercise in or maintain a healthier and more balanced diet. 

Don’t forget, sex is a great way to burn more calories so get busy! The fact is, we always tend to be overly critical of ourselves. You are beautiful and we can almost guarantee that your partner loves the way you look, so be kinder to yourself. 

6. Letting your pets sleep in the bed 

Alright, so it’s nice having the dog climb into bed for a snuggle now and again, but you really should not make a habit of allowing your pets into your bedroom. While pets don’t like being excluded from things, they like tension between their owners far less. So, ban them from the bedroom and let your boudoir go back to being yours and your partner’s intimate sanctuary. 

Other bad habits to avoid

  • Waiting for the perfect moment (it may never come so make those moments happen)
  • Failing to schedule any alone time (sure, it’s not quite as spontaneous but making time for sex is important now and again – particularly if you are struggling)
  • Skipping the gym and eating junk food too often 
  • Wearing pyjamas all the time (mix it up and come to bed wearing some sexy underwear once in a while) 

The key to a healthy sexual relationship, above all else, is communication. Be mindful of any bad habits that you may have picked up, but you should also communicate as often as you can. If you are struggling and have lost touch with one another, air your feelings and start working your way back toward one another.